How To Raise A Perfect Child (or Any Kind Of Child)

The most common question I get from parents when they come to my school is: “How can we raise our kids so they are perfect?” The problem is that perfection is not something you’re born with. It’s an achievement. And it takes time, effort, and practice.

Be More Responsive When Your Child Is Displeased With Him/Herself

If you want your child to be happy, the easiest thing to do is to stop reacting to his or her behavior. Don’t tell him or her what to do. Tell yourself what to do instead.

When your child behaves inappropriately… Learn how to handle difficult situations without arguing or punishing.

Don’t get angry with your child if he or she does something wrong. Instead, show empathy by saying, “I’m sorry, honey.” Then take responsibility by saying, “Let’s talk about why you did that.” Once you’ve spoken out loud, you may feel like you’ve taken control of the situation. Now it’s up to your child to apologize and ask for forgiveness.

Stop Giving Them Too Much Power

Kids need limits. They need boundaries. Without them, they tend to become spoiled and self-centered. They start acting entitled and demanding rather than respectful and appreciative.

In addition, when your child begins to act like he or she has the power, you lose respect for him or her. For example, if your child constantly calls you to yell at him or her, you may begin to think less of him or her. When this happens, you end up feeling powerless over your child.

Kids also need consequences when they misbehave. This shows them that you mean business when it comes to rules and regulations. When your child doesn’t follow the rules, you give him or her a consequence. Like starting chores early on weekends or taking away video games.

Teach Them Responsibility

Teach your child that it’s important to be responsible. It helps kids learn how to manage their time wisely and set realistic goals. Also, it shows them that even though it’s okay to fail sometimes, it’s not ok to keep failing. Kids need clear expectations in order to know what to do when things go wrong.

Show Respect – Even When You Don’t Feel Like Doing So

As mentioned earlier, kids need boundaries. But one boundary you shouldn’t cross is showing disrespect towards them. Children are sensitive beings. They pick up on everything around them. If you don’t show them respect, they won’t either.

Now I would like to share some tips on how to deal with your child when you’re upset. Let’s face it, everyone gets mad from time to time. However, when you react negatively, you create negative feelings in your child.

Here are some ways to avoid doing so:

• Take deep breaths before responding. Try to calm down first.

• Think about whether you’re being fair or unfair.

• Ask yourself if you’re being rational or irrational.

• Consider whether your reaction will help or hurt your relationship with your child.

• Talk to someone else who can help you stay cool.

Be Consistent

Children thrive on consistency. If you’re consistent in setting rules and sticking to them, your child will have no problem following along.

Give Them Time to Make Mistakes

If you punish your kid every time he or she makes a mistake, then you’re teaching him or her that mistakes are bad. That’s not true! In fact, mistakes teach us valuable lessons.

Tell Them What You Expect From Them

If you want your child to behave well, tell him or her what you expect. Your child needs to understand the consequences of his or her actions.

Set Up Clear Boundaries

Setting boundaries means establishing rules and guidelines for your family. These rules should include appropriate behavior as well as acceptable activities.